There is no suffering like the suffering involved in being close to another person. But neither is there any joy nor any real comfort at all outside of intimacy…
-Mike Mason, The Mystery of Marriage
I like this quote. We have been struggling to be kind and compassionate towards one another in the last few weeks. Steve has been down and out with a gastro-intestinal bug for three days and he is really not fun to be around when he is sick. The good part is that we are learning, slowly but surely, to communicate better about the real reason why we act as we do and to grow together because of it. So, while the circumstances of life are not always pleasant I am grateful that God allows us to go through them - once on the other side.
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When you are as sick as steve was, it is only normal not to be thinking of someone else while you are sick.It is up to the spouse to take care of the sick one,and accept the fact that they might be kinda crabby,comes with the the teritory of being married.It is part of in sickness and in health.
Was I just scolded???
Is that how you interpeted it? Not meant it that way.I only know how it is when I'm that sick. I remember when there was a time all 3 of my children were ill and my husband, and I was the one who took care of them all like you had to do.Not easy. Everyone is different when they are sick.How are you when you don't feel well? I like to be left alone to sleep.
Ok, I think I understand what you are saying. My point of the post is that it takes "suffering" and learning to communicate well to get to the intimacy mentioned in the quote. Suffering in our case recently has been two months where at least one or more people in our house (including me) has been sick. Steve was near the end of all the sickness so I was worn out and finding it hard to be very nurturing or compassionate towards him. We had a really good talk about it all and learned about each other and grew through the situation. So you can either choose to just fight about stuff or learn from it and grow towards intimacy.
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